You might think that getting your man back after everything that you’ve been through is too much to ask for. You might think that there has been too much bad blood between the two of you or that things have been said and done that neither one of you have the ability to forgive. This is completely false and every day on this planet people just like you and yours who have broken up actually get back together again. There are couples that overcome infidelity and all sorts of obstacles to fall in love again and go on to live simply wonderful lives together. Now what makes you think that you’re so different or your circumstances are so unique?
The simple fact is that often the things that people try to do to get their boyfriend or husband back are the exact same things that doom them to failure. With the best of intentions women set out to win their boyfriend or husband back and only wind up making things worse. Are you in this same boat and does it seem like everything that you do is met with resistance or worse? Well, here are a few things that can get you started down the path that has led to many couples actually getting back together again and you really can do the same thing too.
Backing Off – While you might think or fear that your boyfriend or husband will forget about you or think that you don’t still love him anymore, you really have nothing to worry about in this regard. He hasn’t forgotten about you and if you are calling him, texting him or emailing him hoping to work things out or just assure him that you really do love him and that you’re not going to give up on him you really are making this worse for yourself. Sure you miss him but are you giving him an opportunity to miss you?
Back off a bit and give him the time and space that he needs to let the reality of this breakup really set in. Let him learn what life is going to be like without you and your love. If you are in regular contact with him he doesn’t have time to really miss you. Plus, by backing off you will create a little mystery and doubt in his mind. Let him worry for a change about whether or not you’re going to move on without him and let him think about that some night as he’s lying awake not able to sleep. It takes some courage but by backing off you will appear strong and self assured. By calling constantly and making known your desire to get him back when he doesn’t really seem to want you back, you appear weak and needy. You want to appear strong and self assured, don’t you?
Get Hot – You might laugh at this but think about it. How are most men stimulated? That’s right… most men are stimulated visually. So after backing off you should do a few things to change your appearance and make yourself look a little more desirable. It could be a new outfit or two, maybe get your hair and nails done, maybe a little different color to your hair. Little changes to your appearance send a huge message and when it does come time to get back in touch with him again you want to knock his socks off, don’t you? You want to leave him speechless.
By making a few changes to your appearance you show that you’re actually taking pretty good care of yourself since the breakup. This shows worth and value and it will be something that he will notice both consciously and subconsciously. In addition, you will be stimulating him visually if you make changes in a direction that you know will turn him on and in the back of his mind he will be asking why you didn’t look that good when he was with you which will lead to thoughts of trying to get you back. Understand?
Forget About the Past – It might be difficult for you to do but it is important that you forget about the past and what went on directly before and during your breakup if you ever hold any hope of getting your boyfriend or husband back. During this period where you’re trying to get him back it would be wise to even verbalize your desire to leave the past in the past and not discuss what happened to who and why. Other than saying that you’re sorry for the misunderstandings and your part in what led to your breakup no further discussion about what happened should be necessary while you’re trying to get him back. It is only counterproductive and it will only bring up bad emotions and feelings.
It might be possible to revisit good times in your relationship once the chemistry is bubbling between the two of you but you will be surprised by how easy it is to bury the hatchet and forget about the hurts of the past if you really want to. And you do want to get your man back, don’t you? You really do want to feel that connection with him again? Then forget about the past for a while and focus on the present as you watch him fall in love with you all over again.
There really is a lot to getting your boyfriend or husband back and while it would be easy to just throw up your hands and quit, if you really do love him and if the pain of your breakup has become unbearable there are things that you can do to get him back. While the above advice can apply to most breakups and relationships there are other areas that you should explore to formulate a well rounded plan to get your boyfriend or husband back.
